Monday, April 13, 2015
5 ways to seduce your partner
Why do we enjoy
seduction? Is it for the thrill, the need, the desire, the conquest, or the
attraction? Possibly. Is it to fulfill a fantasy or to create a Xanadu? Sure.
Can it be for more than just physical interaction? Absolutely. Whatever your
reason, we all crave the excitement a seduction creates in our lives; we crave
that overwhelming feeling of attraction because we all know that this feeling
is just the beginning of something regal- it is the chance to explore the
depths of your desires. And that is seduction; it is a manifestation of someone’s
wants and/or needs.
The way you
seduce one lover will not be exactly the same for everyone else that may enter
your life. Communication is key to a successful seduction, as you
will find, since seduction takes on many forms; from the physical to the
psychological, seduction is meant to attract a person’s attention and
everybody’s needs and wants differ. So, take your time and get to know what
pleases your partner, what “turns them on”, and how you can incorporate their wants
and needs into your relationship and even, your own seduction. Do not be afraid
to be open and ask!
In a
relationship, seduction becomes a metaphorical dance that should equally involve
both partners: one should lead the other. If you are doing the seducing though,
be careful not to lose yourself in all the excitement. Just as dancing requires
grace and balance, so does a seduction. To help you out, here are 5 tips for
staying on track and building a successful attraction between you and your partner
without loosing yourself, so that you and your partner are both happy and
satisfied.
Find a common interest that excites you and
your partner
Excitement comes
in many forms; skydiving, music, live theater, horror movies, the list is
infinite- so be bold! Stray away from the mundane and banal, and the “tried and
true” methods of seduction. For
example, music and lyrics can be just as stimulating as something tangible. Music can also convey ideas and is proven
to positvely affect your health.
So why not start off with some romantic music to stimulate an attraction; not only
will you stimulate the audiophile in your partner, you will stimulate the
audiophile in yourself.
Animate your partner’s imagination
Read your
partner poetry; it is like listening to the lyrics of a song without the music,
and without the sound, the words do the stimulating for you. Visions of
Shakespeare and Frost may flash through your mind at the mention of poetry, but
not all poetry is limited to such authors. Modern poetry does a fantastic job
of depicting visions of love as whimsical
or as cynical (if that stimulates your partner). What ever you choose,
make sure the tone of the poem relays the message you trying to convey to your
partner!
Stimulate your partner’s intellect
Get creative! One
thing we are all equal in is creation; it is one of many characteristics that
make us human! Instead of taking your partner out to dinner and movie, create
something unique or be spontaneous! It will keep your partner guessing and
craving more while creating tension and a desire in your partner to find ways of
seducing you in an exciting and meaningful way. Need help with ideas? Here are 30 new ways to seduce your
partner.
Handwrite a letter to your partner
Never
underestimate the seductive power of a handwritten note! In modern society,
digital media has weaved itself into our every day lives- it is hard to fathom
how older generations were able to get around without Siri for guidance!- which
has created a paradox. Digital media connects the world through virtual interactions
while ignoring the physical ones.
A handwritten note is a simple, elegant, and tangible
way of seducing your partner; it shows the thought you put into constructing
the message and the effort it took to write it- so, write legible! Your partner
will want to keep the note so he or she can read it over and over again till
the edges fray, simply because you wrote it.
Let your partner
know what seduces you. Remember,
seduction is a dance! And the dance’s tempo and rhythm can change to meet the
needs of both parties, so do your partner a favor and let them know what turns
you on. What seduces you does not need to be fancy, unless you want it to be; it
could be something as simple as an outfit you enjoy seeing your partner in to a
night dedicated to stargazing while drinking wine. Get creative and be open
with it! This is the time to explore your deepest desires so, whatever it is, communicate
with your partner about your own wants and needs, and give them a chance to seduce you.
La Petite Mort
Finally! You
have successfully seduced your partner and now, you both can enjoy the fruits
of you and your partners labor.
The French
idiom, La Petite Mort, translates to “the little death” and refers
to the moment after climax; a perfect description for the release we feel after
seduction. Whether the climax of your seduction is an intellectual one or a
physical one, it is still a shared experience between you and your partner that
transcends time and resides in your memory seducing you and your partner over
and over again.
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